All of my friends are over it. Working. They’re sick of making someone else rich. Of leaving home when the sun’s just making an appearance and coming home when it’s already dark. Of the monotony. They watched their parents do it; sacrifice everything so that they could have the best. They know they’re indebted to them forever. A debt they can never repay.
They don’t want that for themselves. They don’t want to wait until they’re 60 before they can start seeing the world.
It’s not about the money. Or the cars. Or the houses. It’s about being a true citizen of the world. Seeing the world. Seeing the daylight hours. Feeling something. Feeling like you’re alive and in control of your own destiny. It would be easy to say ‘Quit your job!’, ‘Throw in the towel’, ‘Sell everything and live like a monk and go find yourself!’
The reality, we all know, is very different.
…NEVER PART OF MY EVERYDAY RITUAL.
We have responsibilities. Not to mention, the guilt of even thinking that you might be able to live your life like that. Or feeling like you should pay your dues. That you’re being selfish. And indulgent.
What does freedom even mean anyway? Maybe you don’t need to throw it all in to feel free? Maybe along the way, we’ve all become so focussed on being ‘achievers’ that we’ve forgotten about chasing the happy. We’re collectively blinded by the dollars. By the awards. Or we’ve just gotten stuck.
We spend our spare time coming up with ideas, starting projects, writing blogs. Writing lists, setting goals. Racing and chasing.
Last week, I was sitting in traffic and I was stopped outside a pub watching a guy who’d just knocked off work enjoying a cold beer, reading the newspaper in the afternoon sun. And I thought to myself, I can’t remember the last time I did that.
Sure, I relax, and I go on holidays, but it’s always planned ‘down time’, never part of my everyday ritual.
This week, as apart of the #worklifebalance experiment I want you to do find something small that makes you happy. And do it. Every day for seven days. I’d love to hear what you get up to. Tweet me or ‘gram me your chasing the happy activity at @Ms_Critique and use the hashtag: #worklifebalance MC
[the food] FOOTNOTE: WHAT IS THE WORK/LIFE BALANCE EXPERIMENT? [/the food]
A little over two years ago, I decided that I wanted to live differently; I wanted to enjoy life. Not just be a passenger on the journey and hope the destination would magically make me happy. Nope. I wanted to wind down the window and feel the breeze in my hair. Dance on the backseat with my head poking through the rooftop. Drive with my feet on the steering wheel wearing a scarf tied around my chin donning big crazy sunglasses. (C’mon, I had to paint the whole picture!)
Documenting this is something I’ve been thinking about for a while. It’s not about quitting your job, or visiting an ashram in India or anything like that.
It’s about you. Just as you are.
Everywhere I go, I see unhappy people looking for an ‘out’. Looking for hope. Waiting for something to magically come along to make them happy. The more I think about it, the more I think that’s a crock. It’s a dangerous dream to entertain. This is about finding what makes you content. What helps you sleep at night. What makes you happy when you wake. What makes you smile when you walk down the street, and you don’t even realise it.
I’m not an expert. I probably know more about, what not to do, to be completely frank with you. I’ve made tonnes of mistakes. Loads! And to be honest, I’m not sure where this #worklifebalance experiment is going yet, but I do hope you’ll join me for the ride.